If this resonated, you can continue the conversation in my podcast below.I recommend starting with Episode 1 and moving through the series at your own pace.
About Me
Hi, I’m Derick Hachey — Certified Life Coach and guide for gay men who are ready to stop performing and start living authentically.
For most of my life, I didn’t feel “broken.” But I never felt fully safe being myself either.
I grew up in a time when there were no happy gay stories. No role models. No examples of what thriving looked like. So like a lot of us, I learned to adapt. I read rooms. I people-pleased. I achieved. I performed confidence while quietly carrying shame underneath.
From the outside, everything looked fine.
Inside, I was exhausted.
For years, I drank to quiet it. The performing, the constant managing of how I came across.
It worked, until it didn’t.
Six years ago, I got sober. Not because someone told me to. Because I was done numbing it, and ready to understand it.
That’s when I tried everything else. Self-help books. Mindset hacks. “30-day transformations.” Nothing stuck, because the problem was never discipline or motivation.
It was the “not enough” belief I’d been carrying my whole life.
When I finally stopped trying to “fix” myself and started understanding the beliefs I’d been living by, everything changed. Confidence isn’t something you force. It’s what naturally happens when you trust yourself enough to be seen.
That realization is why I became a certified coach and built what’s now the Unstuck & Unashamed experience — a step-by-step coaching process that helps gay men let go of shame, build self-trust, and feel genuinely confident in who they are.
My work isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about finally coming home to yourself.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, not enough, or like you’re performing your life instead of living it — you’re not alone.
And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself anymore.
If any part of my story felt familiar, I built something for exactly this moment. My free Unstuck Quiz will show you where you might be stuck — and what could actually help next.
No pressure. Just clarity.
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